You just found out you’re going to be a mommy! You let it sink in for as long as you like before shouting it from the rooftops and then…BAM!!! There they are, all of the well-meaning advice givers and unsolicited commenters. Somehow all of a sudden everything from diaper brands to just how close you are, or actually are not, to having that baby seems to be fair game.
Well my friend, find comfort in the fact that you are NOT alone! I quickly found out how many people have no filter. I once had two different people in a matter of a 15 minute grocery run point out how swollen my feet were and three other people in said grocery run let me know just how close I was to ‘ having that baby’! (I still had a month to go and I was already feeling like an upright cow.)
FYI people, pregnant women are very aware of their swollen feet and when their due date is and they DO NOT need you to point it out! If you feel compelled to make a comment, the only appropriate ones are something along the lines of how cute they are or that they are glowing! (Even if that ‘glow’ is actually sweat.)
Either way, do your best to just shake off the comments and any aversions you may have developed to mirrors, other reflective surfaces and stop trying to find the ‘right way’ to stand to make your shadow more flattering. Oh and avoid Target dressing rooms at all costs! (Many of them have front and back mirrors that left me in tears more than once. Remember at the end of the day, you are growing another human being and that in and of itself is amazing, therefore you are amazing! Every single ounce and inch of you! The next time you look in the mirror just picture yourself holding that little bundle of joy and smile knowing every moment of this will be worth it!
I wish I could say that pre-baby comments are the worst of it. Unfortunately, this is just the beginning. You may want to mentally prepare yourself for the barrage that is about to ensue once you start toting that mini me around town. I once witnessed three people give nursing advice to a new mama friend of mine nursing her baby in the restroom of a church. One person even had the nerve to tell her that her baby looked small for her age right after she had finished telling me that she was worried that her milk supply may have been dwindling and she was worried about his weight gain! After seeing my friend fighting back tears, I wanted to give that lady a piece of my mind, church or no church.
In the midst of all the opinions and advice, what’s a mommy/parent to do? Be confident in your parenting choices, all of them! You alone know what is best for your child and your specific situation and you make the best choices you can for your family. Period. End of story. You do not have to defend your choices to anyone, not even family. Thank them for their opinion if you wish, consider the few good points some may have and apply what you feel is best for you and your family and don’t apologize to anyone for your choices. No one is perfect, but you learn from your mistakes, you do research and make the best informed decisions you can and that’s all you can do. At the end of the day, walk tall and show off that beautiful baby/baby bump because in the end somewhere deep down all of those opinions and put downs won’t matter one bit the next time you hear that little giggle or get that goodnight kiss.